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Some of my best friends

Posted by jos76 on May 31, 2008

About seven years a go, there was a new sitcom called Some of My Best Friends.  The title comes from the familiar phrase that I heard so many times in college, “Some of my best friends are gay.”  My read when hearing this was, “You don’t scare me.  I know people like you.”  The TV show starred Jason Bateman and Danny Nucci.  Jason Bateman played a character named Warren who is a twenty-something writer living in New York.  He is a writer who has just ended a relationship with his boyfriend.  While looking for a roommate, he comes across a straight, Italian guy from Brooklyn and he decides to move in.  The comedy and mayhem ensue.

The character of Warren is a normal guy for the most part, even a bit conservative.  He has a friend (played by Alec Mapa) who is his more flamboyant side-kick.  I have seen all seven (yes, seven) episodes of this sitcom.  It only lasted a few weeks.  Compared to Will and Grace, it is much better written and funnier.  So, why did Will and Grace last several years while this show was cancelled after only seven episodes?  My guess is that it is because the characters of Will and Jack represent what people think gay men are like and they believe the over-the-top, flamboyant, promiscuous lives that these characters lead.

The character of Warren, in my opinion, much more closely represents regular gay men who are looking for, or are in, a relationship.  But, people may not be ready to accept the normalcy of a gay relationship and still choose to look at gay people as a source of comic relief.  Don’t get me wrong, I think Jack and Karen are funny (the show should have been named Jack and Karen instead of Will and Grace), but this representation of gay people does not help our cause.  Unfortunately, this is all that the viewing public is ready for.  Maybe in a few years we can get another show about a “regular” gay character that lasts more than seven episodes.

Scene with Jack from Will and Grace

 Scene from Some of My Best Friends

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Blog Tag

Posted by jos76 on May 24, 2008

A Blog Tag is when different bloggers answer questions about themselves.  I wrote these answers a few weeks back.

I was tagged by Normal Boy, so here it is.

The rules of this tag:
A: The rules are posted at the beginning
B: Answer the questions about yourself
C: Tag 5 people, let them know in a comment on their blogs that they have been tagged.

What were you doing 10 yrs ago?

I was living in Falmoth, MA on Cape Cod.  I was in my first full-time teaching role in a 7-12 independent school.  I was teaching French, Italian, and Drama.  I was 21 years old and right out of college.  Falmouth was great…in the summer.  In the winter it was very boring because most people moved off-cape.  I spent four years there before eventually meeting my partner Dac (on-line) and moving to the Boston area.

Snacks I enjoy:

Five things on my to-do list today:

I’m on vacation from work, so …

  • Get the oil changed
  • Get an inspection sticker
  • Buy cat food
  • Clean out the car
  • Get traveler’s checks for our trip to Paris on Friday

Things I would do if I became a billionaire:

  • First, invest it all
  • Second, take the dividends and capitals gains and give it to charity (HRC, GLSEN, Heifer, MS Foundation) and use the rest to buy a house with a library, and music room for Dac.
  • Use the capital to help friends and family get out of debt
  • Travel

3 bad habits:

  • Eating chips very loudly
  • Being indecisive
  • Workaholic

5 places I have lived:

Jobs I have had:

  • French teacher
  • Italian teacher
  • Drama teacher
  • Summer Camp Director
  • Residential Manager of a Group Home
  • Tour Guide (in Boston for French Travelers)
  • Tutor

Things people don’t know about me:

  • I (almost obsessively according to Dac) check stock market news every day.  I’m fascinated by it.

I tag these bloggers:

 That was fun!

Jos76

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It’s all very 50’s

Posted by jos76 on April 19, 2008

A few weeks back, the headmaster at my school stopped me in the dining room and asked if I liked the symphony.  I quickly responded that Dac is a classical musician, so we enjoy the symphony a great deal.  He then proceeded to ask if Dac and I would be interested in joining him and his wife at Boston’s Symphony Hall.  I knew that this was something that I had to do, but I did say that I had to talk to Dac about the date and would get back to him.

I came home, checked the date with Dac, and we decided that we would go.  I told my Headmaster the next day and the plans were in place.  We made plans to meet up for dinner before going to Symphony Hall.  This past Thursday was the big night.  Before I left for school that morning, Dac said to me, “This is all very 50’s…Going out the symphony with the boss.”  I had to laugh because it was so true.  I mentioned this during dinner and we all had a good laugh.  It did have an “Ozzie and Harriet” feel, but this was the updated gay version.

During dinner, I made a comment about how Dac and I enjoy the time that we spent together and respect each others interest.  My Headmaster immediately commented to his wife that he was so happy to be out with a couple who was happy.  He and his wife have only been married about two years and apparently many of their other married acquaintances tell them that their happiness will not last.  I told them that Dac and I have been together for almost 8 years and we are not past the “happy phase”.  We actually don’t thing that it is a phase.

This was another opportunity to see how a married couple, who are older than us and hold influential positions in the community, freely and respectfully likened Dac and my relationship/marriage to theirs.

Jos76

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What’s the Dividend on a 1st Grader?

Posted by jos76 on April 12, 2008

I consider myself lucky because I like my job. I have been teaching for 11 years in both public and independent schools. Dac had a conversation with a friend recently about ideal jobs and job satisfaction. Dac is a musician by passion and “works” in a hospital. He definitely gets passionate about particular events, but if he had his way, he would be involved in music all the time.

Their conversation turned hypothetical and Dac and Jessy (an amazing musician as well) discussed what they would do if salary were no object and they could do whatever they wanted. Dac would be an instrument maker and Jessy would most like buy the instruments that he makes. Me, well, this is interesting. Dac told Jessy that if I had my choice, and salary was in no way important because I would be independently wealthy, I would still get up tomorrow and be a teacher. I have to agree with that.

Sometimes I think about other careers, like finance. Dac thinks I’m crazy because I enjoy checking stocks, calculating interest, and forecasting dividends. I love watching Mad Money and Suze Orman. What can I say, I’m fascinated by the stuff. I’m not ready to drop the lesson plans and become a day trader tomorrow, but it might be fun to try someday.

Suze Orman

Suze Orman

Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, EFTs, options, 403(b)s, limit orders, and market orders…what fun! My 1st graders are fun too, but the dividends are much different, maybe a few cool drawings and an occasional “you’re bald like my dad!” Priceless.

Jos76

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Clang Clang Clang

Posted by jos76 on April 5, 2008

Remember Carey?  She’s the one who sang at Dac and my wedding back in January of 2006.  She recently performed in New York City.  Check it out:

Be sure to check her site out as well.

Jos76

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Miami, You’ve Got Style

Posted by jos76 on March 31, 2008

Dac is a musician. As I mentioned in a previous post, he is a classical musician for the most part, but he also dabbles in more contemporary music. Everyone in our church looks forward to his musical contributions, be it a classical piece or a contemporary song. I have gotten very good at standing next him as people come up and compliment him afterward. I love it because I am always so proud of him. I have no musical talent at all so I am always impressed by what he accomplishes. I don’t mean to make it seem like it is effortless for him. It most certainly is not. Dac spends hours practicing at home and makes sure that everything that he performs in church or in a concert is excellent.

After seven years, I have begun to get a bit of the music bug from him. I can’t carry a tune to save my life and can’t tell if I am singing too high or too low. When I ask Dac if I should I sing a note higher or lower, he usually responds, “Can’t you hear it?” to which I respond, “Uh…no.”

There is one song that I can mostly sing in tune and of all things it is the Miami song that Rose and Dorothy sang on an episode of the Golden Girls. This is possibly the gayest thing that I have ever admitted to. For those of you that don’t have the “gay gene,” the Golden Girls was TV show in the 80’s about four women in the golden years of their lives (50-80 years old). I’m convinced that the innate ability to sing this song must be genetically linked to the gay gene. What else could possible explain it?

There are times when Dac and I are driving down the street and one of us bursts out with the lyrics to Miami and we sing the entire song together. Maybe there are some things that are different between a straight and gay marriage after all.

Enjoy Rose and Dorothy singing the original!

Jos76

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What is this all about.com?

Posted by jos76 on March 22, 2008

ABOUT.COM

One way of getting the word out about a blog is to post messages and comments on forums and message-boards.  I have been doing this for several weeks.  Maybe you are here because you clicked on the link in one of my posts on a forum or message-board.  If that is the case, thanks for stopping by.

One of the places were I posted a comment was on about.com.  This is a gerat site with lots of information and expertise on specific topics.  Each topic is managed by an “expert” in the field (I think about.com calls them “guides”).  After posting a few times, I got an email from the Gay Life Guide, Ramone, asking me if he could write an article about me and Dac and promote the blog on the site.  He said that there are many readers who would be interested in reading about a real gay marriage in Massachusetts.

Ramone sent me some questions and asked for a picture.  A few days later we were on the welcome page of the site.  You can see it HERE.  I’m the one on the left.

Thank you for the over 2,000 visits to my blog in the past two months.  It inspires me to keep posting.

Jos76

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Paris, je t’aime

Posted by jos76 on March 12, 2008

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During my sophomore and junior years in college I lived in France.  I originally intended to live in Paris and to attend one of the universities, but I realized after a few weeks that it was too expensive for an American student to live there, so I packed up and went to Rouen, in Normandy.  This was a much smaller city about an hour west of Paris. I enrolled in the University there and took a position as an English Teaching Assistant in a high school.

I lived in a little suburb of the city called Bois-Guilliame (William’s Woods) in a small apartment above the garage of a professor at the university.  We became great friends and had almost every meal together.  She was much older than me and had just divorced before I moved in.  She needed someone to talk to and I wanted to talk as much as possible in order to practice my Parisian French (I had a French-Canadian/Quebecois accent when I got there), so we were a perfect match.  It was kind of like a Harold and Maude situation, but the updated gay version.  Each night when we would set the table, there were the required elements like plates and utensils, but I learned to add a dictionary (which we would always seem to need) and Brigitte’s cigarettes (Marlboro Box), a lighter, and the ashtray.  It was France after all.

I am  a French teacher so I have been back to France many times since college, but it has always been with 20-40 students in tow.  I have enjoyed traveling with students, but student travel companies are not known for choosing the best hotels and restaurants.  This Friday, Dac and I are leaving for Paris.  It will be the first time since college that I have been without a group of students.  It will also be Dac’s first time there as well.  I’m very excited to show him around and experience this amazing city again.

Cheese, cafe, croissant, baguette, oh my!

Jos76

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