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By the power invested in me

Posted by jos76 on May 17, 2008

We had a lot of choices with our wedding ceremony.  Dac and I chose everything from the color of the chair covers to the words of our minister.  As a mentioned in a previous post, we were married by Dac’s sister-in-law’s father who is a (now retired) minister in the Unitarian Universalist Chruch.  He also married Dac’s brother and sister-in-law.  How many families can claim that the same minister married two of the siblings in one family, let alone one of the siblings having a gay wedding?

Prior to the ceremony, Rev. F sent us several versions of same-sex and heterosexual wedding ceremonies.  We looked through all of them and pieced together the best parts of all of them into our ideal ceremony.  The ceremony began with Pachelbel’s Canon (played on piano and cello by friends of Dac’s from high school) as Dac and I came down the isle on the arms of our mothers.  Dac went first, he’s younger.  Then Dac’s mom’s best friend, CC, and another friend of ours sang Ubi Caritas to set the mood for the ceremony.

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One important part of the ceremony was the very end, when the minister pronounced us married.  It was so great to actually hear him say:  “By the power invested in me by the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, I now pronounce you married.”  This was a very traditional ending to a not-so-traditional ceremony, but it was very powerful to be able to make this claim in front of our family and friends.

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That girl can “carey” a tune!

Posted by jos76 on February 20, 2008

The first picture I ever saw of my partner Dac was of him sitting on the steps of an animal hospital where he used to work. Along with him in the picture were two of his best friends, Carey and Echo Doppler. Echo is Carey’s dog, a fun-lovin’, lick-your-face, sniff-you-all-over pit-bull cross. It was telling that I first encountered Dac along with Carey and Echo because they were, and still are, important “people” in his life.

When Dac and I began to plan our wedding ceremony, one of the first things that we both decided we had to have was the song He’s Got a Way. The song was originally Billy Joel’s She’s Got a Way, but we had to change it a little to make it work or us. There was no question that we wanted our (I can say that now) friend Carey to sing this song during our ceremony. Click HERE to hear her sing it just as we heard it during the ceremony.

Check out her videos HERE.

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I have such admiration for Carey. I have always been amazed at how she sets goals, goes after them, and goes further than anticipated. Before our wedding, she moved closer to New York City to pursue her singing career. I never thought that we would lure her back to Massachusetts to sing in our wedding, but she of course did. And, her voice, presence, and emotion added a personal touch to the ceremony that could never have been there otherwise.

Jos76

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