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If They Only Knew

Posted by jos76 on April 27, 2008

Dac and I spent the weekend away at a retreat.  There is group of people in our church (an open and affirming congregation of the United Church of Christ) who were looking for a way to get together to talk about their spirituality and to engage in fellowship.  I’m always a little hesitant with the word “fellowship.”  I guess it is because I always think of old ladies sitting around drinking tea or some kind of tent revival situation.  The only other time I hear this word is when we talk about the “fellowship hour” that follows our Sunday morning worship services.  And, I must say, there are lots of older ladies sitting around drinking tea.

But, I got a very different perspective on the idea this weekend.  We all formed a very interesting group.  It ended up being five couples and our minister.  We went to the Deering Center.  Written on the sign, as you approach it on the winding New Hampshire road, is “Christian Family Camping,  Conference and Retreat Center.”  For most gay people, it would be a scary concept to even consider pulling in.  However, Dac and I went in the fall with another group and we found that it is a very peaceful place and every person who works there (and volunteers there) embodies true Christian values. 

Among our group were three gay couples (two female and Dac and I), and two straight couples, both couples are parents and one even has several grandchildren.  We were all welcomed with open arms and had a great experience.  I had a short conversation with the owner before leaving and told him how much we love going there.  He said he was happy that we had such a great experience and told me that he wants to make sure that everyone feels welcome, regardless of where they are on their Christian Journey.

Dac and I are sad to hear how most people automatically assume that Christian=dislike of gay people.  We understand why this is since so many fundamentalist groups do in fact disagree with our relationship, but we strive to also let people know that there is a place in the Christian Church for everyone.  We have an Ichthus (the Christian fish symbol) on our car and I’m sure that when people see it they think, “they are gay haters.”  If they only knew!

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Here’s the church, here’s the steeple…

Posted by jos76 on January 26, 2008

So here’s a phrase that you don’t hear a gay guy say too often…I love my church.  Better yet, here’s a phrase that you don’t hear Christians saying too often…we love our gay members.  Ok, maybe we do hear some churches saying that they love their gay members and all gay people, but it is usually followed by something like..but we hate their sin and their lifestyle.  This is the reputation that most mainline Christians churches have because of the media and many of the current political candidates.

However, this not really the ideology and theology of many Christians churches.  Our church, an Open and Affirmation congregation of the United Church of Christ, is not at all what people might think. To get a better idea, watch this video of a UCC  commercial that aired a few years back to get a better idea:

Dac and I have really found a church home in the UCC.  In our particular congregation, there are about four or five gay and lesbian couples.  Other than that, most of the congregation is made up of many multi-generational familes, including one man who was the first child baptized in the church close to 80 years ago.  It is exciting to be part of a diverse group of people who respect us both individually and as a couple.  

You can search for a congregation in your area on the UCC web site (the link is to the right).  Be sure to look for an Open and Affirming (OnA) congregation as some UCC churches have not elected to follow this theology, though the vast majority has.

Jos76

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