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Thoughts and musings on life in a gay marriage.

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Working from the Inside

Posted by jos76 on June 7, 2008

Now that Obama is the Democratic nominee for President in the November election, I have begun to compare McCain and Obama on “the issues.” I have not yet decided who to vote for. I never thought that I would be in a position to actually vote Republican. I guess that I have been a single issue voter in the past and voted for the the Democrat because he was also more pro-gay, regardless of his stance on other issues facing the country.

I’ve become quit interested in the Log Cabin Republicans recently and I am impressed with the work that they do. The Log Cabin Republicans are the nation’s only organization of Republicans who support fairness, freedom, and equality for gay and lesbian Americans.

As I have looked into this group further, I discovered that they are working to change the Republican party ideology so that it remains fiscally conservative instead of socially conservative, which has nothing to do with the origins of the Republican Party. The name goes back to Lincoln’s presidency, thus the reference to the log cabin. The work that they do rivals that of GLAAD, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, and the HRC. The difference is that the LCR work from within the party, rather than from the outside. This is bold and brave work in my opinion.

Many might see this as self-hating or internalized homophobia, but I do not. This is a group that believes in the fundamentals of the Republican Party, such as individual responsibility, lower taxes, a strong national defense, limited government, free markets, and individual liberty. When you take the (new) socially conservative ideology out of the picture, this makes sense…at least to me. The LCR works from the inside, using the language of the party.

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Log Cabin Commercial with Reagan

This does not mean that McCain will get my vote because he does not have a great record of supporting gay people (actually, he has a bad record). Civil Unions are the way to go in my opinion and McCain may have indicated that he is supportive, but it is unsure. I’m just thankful that the LCR is helping to make this a non-issue when voting. They are working to see to it that one day all Americans will be able to vote based on the quality of the candidate rather than on whether he/she (the voter) will lose or gain rights as a result of the election.

Jos76

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The Single Issue Voter

Posted by jos76 on March 26, 2008

I’ve been more invested and interested in politics during this election than I have every been. Maybe it is because I’m a bit older, or maybe it is more interesting. Dac and I often talk about what we want in a candidate (and eventually President) and we revisit who we support more each time we hear the Democratic candidates speak.

I initially thought that I would vote for the candidate who supported gay rights more, but in the past few years I have realized that I am not a single issue voter. It seems also that I am not alone on this. The Washington Blade recently reported on a Human Rights Campaign survey that reported that about 25 percent of the gay. lesbian, and bisexual voters that responded said that the economy and jobs are the most important issues. Another 24 percent said that health care was the most important and 18 percent put Iraq as their top concern. Others voters chose taxes and government spending or the environment and global warming as their biggest concern. Only 21 percent of respondents made gay rights/marriage their top issue.

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Unfortunately, the conservative right is not being as liberal in their voting issues of preference. NPR had an interview with Richard Land, who holds an influential position in the Southern Baptist Convention, which claims more than 16 million churchgoers. Land said that he is working to convince evangelicals that they should prioritize “the sanctity of human life (abortion) and … the sanctity of marriage” when voting.

That sounds like single issue voting for me and if that is the ideology of the socially conservative right-wing, I’ll just have to call myself a liberal.

Jos76

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Dancing with Bigotry

Posted by jos76 on January 16, 2008

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As usual this morning I heard a few remarks on the radio about political candidates who do not support gay marriage.  It’s sad that this has just become part of my morning routine.  After I stop to get my coffee and contribute to the economy and before I get to my job (I’m a teacher), I get to hear my dose of “Marriage is between a man and a woman” and “Gays and lesbians are hurting traditional heterosexual marriage.” 

Then, yesterday, as per usual when I take the train into the city, there was group a teenage boys sitting behind me who must have called each other “gay,” “queer,” “faggot” at least 20 times during the 10 minute ride.  They were unaware of who was on train and did not care.  I’m sure that they would not have made obvious racial comments at the risk of other people on the train confronting them for their ignorance and bigotry. But, everyone heard their homophobic slurs and no one was concerned.

To those of us who live in this reality everyday, it is mind-boggling.  Don’t the political candidates understand how their views and stances influence the public around them.  “If it’s okay for Romney to say that he doesn’t agree with homosexuality, then it must be okay for me to make fun of them and maybe even be violent toward them.”

I’m not typically this politically charged, but I have been hearing parts of Dr. Martin Luther King’s ” I have a Dream” speach a lot lately (with MLK Day coming up in a few days) and his ideal of freedom is on my mind.  I’m sure anti-gay political candidates will take time out to honor Dr. MLK next week and take a stance for what he was working for, then, right after, they will dance around the issue of gay marriage and civil rights.

Ok, that’s my rant for the week.  I promise to be more clever and amusing in the future.  I think Huckabe and Romney are each taking a turn dancing with bigotry tonight on the news, so I have to get going.

Jos76

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Thoughts on an old Portuguese lady

Posted by jos76 on January 14, 2008

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We all hear differing political views on gay marriage. Most (if not all) Democratic Candidates support some form of Civil Union, where Republicans are quite opposed to any recognition of a same-sex union.

It’s difficult sometimes to be driving to work and listening to the radio and hearing rich white men say that I am not equal to them and thus don’t deserve the same rights, “privileges,” and respect that they do. Unfortunately, they may be the ones to decide this issue for us. Though my partner and I are legally married in Massachusetts, we question if it will ever be recognized federally.

Just when I get a little down in the dumps about what might come about politically I usually get a reality check. Just yesterday, several anniversary cards arrived for me and my partner. As I mentioned in the previous post, we don’t tend to celebrate these milestones, but at times our friends and family do. One of the cards that arrived was from my partner’s 83 year-old traditional (Catholic even) Portuguese grandmother. The card read: “On Your Anniversary…You’ve believed in each other, trusted each other, treasured each other and it’s brought you to another beautiful year shared together in love.”

This from a women who was married for almost 60 years. Her blessing, recognition, acceptance, and respect are what essentially validate our marriage. Now, if we could just get her on the Democratic Ticket (Though like most traditional old Portuguese ladies she probably votes Republican…go figure!).

Jos76

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2 down, 48 to go!

Posted by jos76 on January 14, 2008

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My partner and I are celebrating our second wedding anniversary today. We live in Massachusetts so it’s the real legal kind of wedding anniversary. We have been together for seven years and we don’t usually make a big deal about celebrating the milestones (in fact neither of us said anything about it this morning when we left).

We are proud of our two (actually seven) years together, but last night we were invited to a 50th anniversary party for a couple that we know very well from our church. There were about 60 people there and as we looked around we saw a very eclectic group. We were the gay couple (younger than the couple’s own children). We were so proud to be invited and enjoyed being the presence of such an accomplishment.

When saying our good-byes, they said to us, “Congratulations on your anniversary tomorrow.” They added that it won’t always be easy, but it is so worth sticking it out. If a Protestant New England heterosexual couple married for 50 years can talk to us like we have the “same” marriage that they do, there is hope for the rest of the world (and maybe even the Republican Candidates).

Jos76

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Jos76’s life in 350 words or less!

Posted by jos76 on January 14, 2008

I spent some time in a Mennonite boarding school in Pennsylvania when I was in high school. Suffice it to say that as the resident gay kid I learned to have a thick skin. I never personally felt that my faith and my sexuality were in opposition to each other, but I constantly heard how evil the “homosexual lifestyle” was.

I graduated from high school in 1994 and went on to a large state university where I tried to fit in, but quickly realized that I was way more religious than I had thought. I spent my sophomore year in France where no one wanted to listen to any kind of religious banter. I quickly realized that churches in France were just pretty museums that tourists appreciated more than French citizens did.

Once I graduated from college, I went to live on Cape Cod where I also taught for four years. I had a really rewarding experience with a group of colleagues that taught me that I could be openly gay (and even date at times). I took them up on it and eventually met my partner, through and online dating site.

I don’t think my colleagues saw it coming, but I moved off of Cape Cod to be with my new boyfriend. During our first date we had a quick conversation about whether or not we wanted to be together exclusively and we both agreed. We have been together ever since. We were together for five years when we decided to get married two years ago.

We both have very interesting families and friends that always keep us guessing. In these postings, you will be introduced to many of them and will come to see the experiences that we have as a young (can we still say that at 29 and 31 years old?) gay couple. Stay tuned.

Jos76

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